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Parent Child Relationship

By Kshitij Sharma, June 20, 2010

This New York Times article reveals how animals use their relationship with children to improve their social standing. This isn’t very different from humans where we too derive pleasure from our children. We feel happy seeing them play. We put big burden our expectations on their small shoulders and really, like the male Barbary macaques mentioned in the article, we “strengthen our social clout” through our children. Coincidently, I was reminded that it is father’s day today.

After playing with my son with some time, I was tempted to dust off my notes on astrology on how to judge children through horoscopes.

Ideally, this article should have written itself as part II of Progeny in Vedic Astrology and Dattak Putra Yoga. However, life is such that when children come along, they take up majority of the time and energy of their parents. Most importantly, they divert the focus away from all other activities. Even now, when I am trying to concentrate on this article, I am not able to get the tunes of Itsy Bitsy Spider and Sun, Sun, Mr. Golden Sun out of my head.

A relationship between a parent and child is a complex one. Responsibility and expectation does not always balance each other out. Both the parties grow together and as everyone gets older, maintaining the relationship is not necessarily a piece of cake.

To judge such a relationship, we need to look at 5th house in parent’s horoscope and 9th (for father) or 4th house (for mother and emotions) in the child’s horoscope. Due to Bhavat Bhavam, both 5th and 9th become important as 9th is 5th from 5th and 5th is 9th from 9th. In general, we should look at influences on 5th house and its lord to determine how the relationship and association would be in future.

Understanding the influence on parent’s horoscope is through various planets and the above houses in the kundali. Happiness through children is indicated if there is a positive influence through Moon, Venus and Jupiter. Similarly, unhappiness would be caused by Saturn and Rahu. Afflicted Mercury in a kundali causes worries and communication problem, Mars causes danger and Rahu can be the cause of smoke screens, misunderstanding and scandals. Adverse navamsha and saptamsha positions of well placed planets in rashi kundali can further cause misunderstanding. With respect to the child’s kundali, it will be important to look at the Dwadasamsa kundali and issues with 9th and 4th house.

Placement of 5th lord in various houses in a horoscope is important. A good yoga/combination between 1st and 5th house lords predicts a good relationship between the parent and child. A good combination between 5th and 7th or 9th house lord predicts that the parent would benefit from foreign travels of the child. If there are negative influences in these houses in the kundali, the relationship would be estranged by distance. A child will not support the parents in their old age, for example. Similarly, if the 2nd house is involved and there are a lot of negative influences, a parent might not be able to support the child financially.  Afflictions to 4th house in the child’s horoscope will indicate emotional issues and specifically issues with the mother.

The rules explained above are from the perspective of a parent, but can be turned around and looked from the perspective of the child as well. Take an example of 10th house – an unfavourable combination between 5th and 10th house would mean that a person would neglect his/her children for career. A similar combination involving 9th and 10th house would mean that a child will not get enough support from parent because of the parent’s career aspirations.


  • Comment by Pradip Chaudhuri on June 21, 2010 at 10:16 am

    A great presentation on the Father’s day. Thanks.
    = Pradip Chaudhuri

  • Comment by pankaj on July 9, 2010 at 11:42 pm

    I think you are doing a great job by pursuing your hobby. Infact, i just started understanding the basics and would be more interested to know more about my yog/combinations….

    Keep updating this page.

    Thanks Again.

  • Comment by vishnu on May 25, 2011 at 7:28 pm

    If a natal chart confirms for double marriage what should be done for male native to avoid this situation . pl. guide

  • Comment by suresh chavan on February 26, 2013 at 3:46 pm

    good and nice to understand how planets influence our life,would be happy to know more details on child parent relation ship THANKS SURESH

  • Comment by rameshbabu on December 4, 2016 at 9:15 pm

    Mother’s position is afflicted by Saturn’s effect in kanya. We need Remedies pls. The problem is the mother has lost her mother (child’s grand mother ) and she can’t withstand the effect

  • Comment by Sucharitha on August 19, 2019 at 5:21 pm

    Mt dob is proper relationship with parents since dourteen years.. It’s ab unexpected twist in my life. What might be the reason

  • Comment by Shefali Sethi on November 17, 2019 at 1:27 am

    My DOB is 21st August 1981 born in Delhi at night…do not have exact time ..not sure but between from 9.50 pm to 10.30 father is suffering from cancer…want to know if he will improve in 2020…and how is mom’s health..

  • Comment by Divya on January 9, 2020 at 10:18 pm

    My daughter Anvika D is born on 7th July 2019 at 22.42a.m. in karinagappally, kerala. I want to know will her father loves her.As we are at the verge of Divorce.

  • Comment by Divya on January 9, 2020 at 10:19 pm

    Sorry DOB for above question is 12.42.a.m

  • Comment by Ankana baneejee on October 12, 2020 at 3:43 pm

    My dob is 14.01.1992 at 3.15 p.m. at bardhaman,,west bengal…i want to khow about the health,,, success and relationship of my son with me..

  • Comment by VISHAL DOIJADE on October 21, 2023 at 2:44 pm

    My DOB is 16.07.1979 time 13:10 p.m. at Haveri Karnataka…i want to know the relation with my daughter, whose DOB is 09-08-2011, place of birth is pune , time of birth is 12.06 – midnight.

    How will be my relation with my daughter?

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